My main memories of Jeff are of someone who really welcomed me into the family, and was always very respectful and generous to me, Matt and our children. He used to write me letters (always addressed to "Elizabeth", and signed off "your Pa"), usually including a newspaper article about something he thought might be of interest to me, or a coupon for something from the supermarket. Whenever we saw him he would always bring bags of things he had got from charity shops or sometimes out of a skip - many of which are still getting played with or used a lot still today! He would always want to do something to help us - fix our car, or hang a door, or puzzle over some DIY challenge with Matt - and would always do every job with careful planning and precision. Jeff was very much his own person, often showing an incredible resolve and self control. This to me was what defined his response to his illness. He didn't complain, or give up, or turn in on himself, but continued to choose and embrace life, and especially to embrace his family. He stayed with his family for as long as he could - and gave us all an amazing example of how to live the suffering of life as a gift to those you love. He will be greatly, greatly missed. Thanks for everything Pa, Elizabeth xx